Sometimes the difficult aspects of life make it seem like bad news is the only news around. When we are disconnected from our partners it seems like love is a dream or even a myth that is impossible to achieve. Even when the days seem dark and disconnected it is possible to find evidence of love. Building on the remnants of deep down love can help us to find hope and possibility for the future. Love really is all around if we look for it. Greeting family members as they come and go during the holidays. Opening the heart to a loved one who might initially be seen as irritating and looking deeper to discover the behavior comes from hurt and defensive patterns that serve to protect. Seeking to understand helps to re frame the picture. We can focus on empathy for ourselves and others and discover the true joy of loving and being loved.